When I look back over nearly 2 1/2 years of writing about life on Frugal Hill, I notice that at times I’ve been overcommitted with work, home life and everything else and I’ve been pretty frazzled.
Nearly a year ago, I was bounced into being treasurer for a group I’m a member of. Now I’ve done quite a bit of volunteering over the years. I’ve been a school governor, playgroup secretary, all the usual things, but these dropped off when I went back to work full time. This time when I was asked, I had a funny feeling that I should really say no – I really don’t have enough time to do anything else.
Unfortunately at the time I felt under pressure and a bit guilty about saying no, so I agreed to do it. At the moment it’s all getting a bit too much – I’ve got a mass of emails from people wanting this that and the other. However, I have recognised that as this is a voluntary thing, it will have to take second place to more important things. My family always come first and I’ve had to take Edie and Bee back to their respective universities this week, so rather than try and cram all this in to not enough time, I have said that I won’t be attending this week’s meeting.
I have learned my lesson that it’s ok to say no and not feel guilty about it. I’ve realised that divesting myself of commitments is part of de-cluttering my life, so I’ve decided that I will do this role for one more year (then I will have served 2 years) and then I will step down.
Have you ever found yourself over committed? How did you extricate yourself from too many commitments?
Until next time, Tawney x