Out of control…again

Hello Friends,

We had a lovely Easter weekend away at the inlaws.  It’s flat down south, so I finally got round to road testing my new road bike properly.  I tried it out a few weeks ago on the Manifold Way on a bitterly cold afternoon.  It was a bit of a scary experience – not having been on a road bike for 20 years I was very wobbly, I couldn’t reach the brakes properly and the saddle was (unbeknown to me) pointing up in the air.  Cue crossed and watering eyes.

Really, really hope I don't come off....

Really, really hope I don’t come off….

OH sorted these glitches out for me and after a few laps round the estate, we went out for a 20 mile ride.  Everthing worked well – the bike fits perfectly, I can stop, and I’m looking forward to many more rides.

And then we came back home, and the chaos that is my house hit me.  If I am honest, a lot of this is to do with me preferring to do things like cycling, spending time with friends and playing the violin.  I’m not really very domesticated.  A few weeks ago, somebody at work asked me what I did about my cleaning.  She works part time and was saying how difficult it was to fit everything in.  My answer was simply ‘I don’t clean’.  Or at least I do when it all gets too much and I think I really ought to do something about the layer of dust on the stairs.

Routines don’t work for me – or at least not the ones demanding daily adherence.  I’ve tried them but found myself becoming even more exhausted as I try and fit too much into my day.  However, the disorganisation is driving me mad, and I can see that having to run up and down between three floors before I leave the house just to find a pair of shoes just adds to the stress levels.

So I am thinking about finding a different way of organising my home, one that works for me.

Have you managed to change your habits completely?  How did you do it?

Until next time, Tawney x


Out of control…again — 4 Comments

  1. I employ a non-judgemental cleaner for one hour a week to do things I can’t – stairs etc. Before she comes I rush around like a demented thing – putting papers, knitting, sewing and general gunge away – so things at least are slightly tidier!

  2. I feel your pain with the house. I used to be a hoarder, wouldn’t let people into the house, kept the blinds shut, Dan had to go to the 24 hour supermarket to buy clothes for work sometimes because we couldn’t find things for him to wear. Hopefully that makes you feel better about your situation!

    I know it’s a thing to make the eyes roll and it’s not for everyone, but the thing that changed my life was the Flylady system. Yes, it’s really cheesy, yes it’s a little bit daft, but it changed my life and I’m not ashamed to say I needed leading by the hand in that way, I owe so much to her, her system and the dozens of people I’ll never meet who helped me online every day for about 4 years. You can get things cleared and you don’t have to be a slave to housework, you just need to find the way in that works for you.

    • Thank you for your kind comments, that does make me feel that there is hope. I thought it was just us! I will have a look at Flylady – I’m willing to try anything to make a comfortable home!

      • As I said, it’s not for everyone, the “routine” aspect of it can seem a bit overwhelming but I just went for it, I knew that what I was doing didn’t work so giving something else a try might help.

        When I felt like rebelling against it I allowed myself to whinge – but while I was doing whatever I was meant to be doing, otherwise I just didn’t think about it and did it, or thought about something else as I was getting on with it! It’s only for 15 minutes at a time so by the time I’d finished whinging I was pretty much done!